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Epic Love. Who Needs Twilight?

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we’re fire and water

you and I

two firstborns

passionate lovers

determined fighters

sometimes with each other

sometimes against the world

but always together

 

our clashes

are epic

but our passion

for each other

even more so

 

solo and leia

buffy and angel

edward and bella

have nothing on us

 

i think about us

as i hear the door close

behind you

and

our brilliant little bookworm

this morning

the best of us both

in her sweet face

 

the house is quiet

except

for the sounds

of the shower

and

the dulcet tones

of another small one

gifted with

our passion for music

she belts out her

song of joy

 

our smallest creation

a giant

lays beside me

drinking his breakfast

his happy spirit

a mirror of yours

his determination

a blend of both

 

the day begins

it flaunts its challenges

in our faces

it taunts us

and thinks it has

the upper hand

 

it does not realize

we have already won

in what

we have created

 

it cannot hear

dulcet tones

see sweet brilliance

bask in a happy spirit

 

it has not

yet met

US

my love

 

i’ll forge it with fire

you quench it with water

 

we will

create a thing

of beauty

and strength

 

just

like

US

Domestic Violence: A Brilliant Beauty Breaks the Silence

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Today’s video is from a survivor of childhood Domestic Violence. I have admired Tess Munster for some time. She seems a kindred spirit. She believes in loving yourself now, as you are – which you know I support!

Beautiful, strong and determined, you’d never know from her sassy style that she is a survivor of abuse.

Domestic Violence can happen to ANYONE. Tess’s story proves that it is possible to escape and to heal. I am so glad she was willing to break the silence. Thank you, Tess.

October is almost over but it’s not too late to make a difference. Just Break the Silence!

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AzCADV: Domestic Violence In Arizona and How YOU Can Help!

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Guest Post by Allie Bones, Executive Director of AzCADV

This year marks the twenty fifth anniversary of the first Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM), when advocates across the country remember victims of violence, celebrate the strides we’ve made, lament recent setbacks, and spur communities to action.

Although its occurrence is often eclipsed by other causes recognized in October, we believe DVAM is one of the most important awareness campaigns observed throughout the year.

The AzCADV is a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization that represents anti-domestic violence programs and other concerned individuals and groups. The Coalition was formed in 1980 so that citizens and professionals could unite and, through this statewide organization, increase public awareness about domestic violence, enhance the safety and services for domestic violence victims, and reduce the incidence of domestic violence in Arizona families.

Our mission is: to lead, to advocate, to educate, to collaborate, to end domestic violence in Arizona.

As you might know, domestic violence is a pattern of behavior used by one partner to exert power and control over the other. This violence can take many forms, including physical, sexual, emotional, and financial abuse.

Domestic violence affects women, children, and men regardless of age, race, ethnicity, or class. However, according to the Bureau of Justice Statistics, 85% of victims of domestic violence are women (2003).

The AzCADV plays a vital role as the focal point for service providers and as a resource center for the general public. By working closely and collaboratively with a wide variety of other groups, we ensure domestic violence is a consideration in many forums. This coordination between providers and others maximizes the use of limited funding available for domestic violence services in Arizona.

We fulfill our mission by representing 36 domestic violence programs located across the state. These programs assist nearly 10,000 victims of domestic violence and their children each year with services ranging from emergency shelter beds and transitional housing, to support groups, individual counseling, employment assistance, legal advocacy, and child care, among others.

We recently celebrated with Advocates and AzCADV supporters of the anti-domestic violence community at the 3rd Annual Thrive Gala and Awards Dinner on September 19, 2012. It was an honor to present six Arizona advocates with the Thrive Awards to recognize their tenacity, strength, and commitment to ending domestic violence.

Gala guests know that their dedication to empowering the 12 million Americans who experience domestic violence each year is a noble and just pursuit. This event serves to inspire those who work tirelessly to give victims hope and support when they have none.

We presented the statewide conference on domestic violence in September as well, and were pleased to host over one hundred advocates who learned from local and national experts about the latest trends and research in the field.

While these amazing advocates and community partners continue to serve victims and their children in emergency shelters and non-residential programs, some recent developments aren’t cause for celebration.

When a courageous victim reaches out for help, too often she or he finds none is available. In one 24-hour period in late 2011, 36 programs in our state served 1,611 victims of domestic violence. Sadly, programs had to turn away 195 victims during that period. Programs did not have available beds or enough staff to meet every request, so some victims in Arizona are not finding help from conventional sources even when they find the courage to reach out.

Put yourself in a victim’s shoes: imagine gathering the fortitude to make the call to an emergency shelter. Imagine telling a perfect stranger that you’re being hurt by someone you love and are thinking of fleeing your home. Imagine being willing to leave everything behind, packing just a small bag with your most valuable possessions- if there is even time to pack anything at all. Now, imagine being told there isn’t room for you.

What’s more, state funding for Arizona’s domestic violence programs has recently been altered. While some programs received an increase, others saw their funding slashed by up to 80%. We fear this will result in other victims being turned away from shelters and non-residential programs.

Since 2000, AzCADV has researched and tracked the domestic violence-related fatalities that occur in Arizona.

In 12 years, at least 1,213 people have died in domestic violence-related incidents. We define “domestic violence-related incidents” broadly, including victims of familial homicide, intimate partner homicide, perpetrators who commit suicide or are killed by law enforcement during a domestic violence incident, and bystanders who may have tried to intervene or were targeted by a perpetrator.

This creates a reasonably comprehensive picture, but it is inherently incomplete. Some fatalities fail to garner a news article, or information related to underlying domestic violence may not be included. Other deaths may occur in related circumstances but cannot be specifically linked to domestic violence.

In 2011, 103 people died in tragedies that we know about. The youngest, Angel Diaz, was just 6 months old. The oldest was 76. More males died than females, which has been a trend since we started tracking the deaths.

Males, however, were rarely killed by current or former intimate partners. Of the 54 men who died in domestic violence-related incidents in 2011, 7 were victims of intimate partner violence, representing 12% of the deceased males. The vast majority committed suicide, which is consistent with information from previous years.

The majority of female victims, however, were murdered by intimate partners (53%). For more information on domestic violence-related fatalities and to read our yearly reports, visit http://azcadv.org/domestic-violence-info/downloadable-resourc/statistics-reports-a/fatality-and-homicid/top.

One way we’re addressing the above issues is by providing the latest research and model polices in trainings across Arizona. Our Training Department speaks with advocates, law enforcement officials, social service agencies, and community members on a wide variety of topics, including best practices in crisis intervention, skills for new advocates, and substance abuse and domestic violence.

If you would like to schedule a training for your agency or join one of our upcoming events, please visit http://www.eventbrite.com/org/461277497?s=3942045.

Sometimes it seems like there is nothing that can be done, that the problem is too big and too many people have been hurt by domestic violence. But there are ways for each of us to be a part of the solution.

What can you do?

1. Know what resources are available so you can refer a friend or family member who reaches out for help. The Arizona Coalition Against Domestic Violence’s Legal Advocacy Hotline is available Monday through Friday, 8:30 am to 5 pm to assist with legal information, referrals, and safety planning (602-279-2900). The National Domestic Violence Hotline is available round the clock and can be reached at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).

2. Consider volunteering or donating to your local anti-domestic violence program. Find out what services are located near you by visiting www.azcadv.org.

3. Learn more. An issue that affects one in four women surely demands our attention. Read more at http://www.thehotline.org/get-educated/.

It is possible to end domestic violence in Arizona.

It will take dedication. It will take resources. It will take persistence.

And it will take every one of us.

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Here’s where to find help if you are being abused.

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Allie Bones is the Executive Director of the Arizona Coalition Against Domestic Violence (AZCADV). The mission of the organization is to lead, to advocate, to educate, to end domestic violence in Arizona. Throughout her career, she has held a variety of governmental and advocacy positions focusing on issues of violence against women, homelessness and hunger. 
Allie has previously worked for the AZ Department of Economic Security as the State Homeless Coordinator and Program Manager for domestic violence, homeless, and hunger programs. Before that, she was a Senior Program Analyst for Violence Against Women in former Governor Janet Napolitano’s Office for Children, Youth and Families, Division for Women. Allie was an Executive Director for the Arizona Coalition to End Homelessness just before joining the Governor’s staff, and she started her career with the AZCADV as a Systems Advocate, advocating and lobbying for systems changes to improve the lives of victims of domestic violence and hold offenders accountable.
Allie earned her Bachelor’s Degree from the University of Arizona in Family Studies and completed her Master of Social Work in May of 2001 at Arizona State University.
In her free time, Allie enjoys spending time with her husband since 2000, Dave, and their children traveling, boating, golfing and watching movies.

 

 

Sochu House Restaurant Review

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Guest Post by Scott Savage of The Joshua Collective blog.

Over the last several years, Central Phoenix has exploded with incredible local restaurants. And the list of new places for my wife and I to check out only keeps growing!

One of the local restaurants to open during that time period was Fate. We enjoyed a couple visits in 2007 and 2008 before Fate closed. (Now Bliss/ReBar occupy the same space on 5th Street and Garfield). The chef/owner behind Fate – Johnny Chu – went on to open Sens, an Asian tapas bar and recently he opened Sochu House.

Located on the southeast corner of Central and Thomas, Sochu House has received great reviews and we have heard several friends recommend it to us. A couple weekends ago, we headed down Central from our place in Uptown Phoenix for my wife’s birthday dinner and were more than impressed with the food, environment and service.

It seemed to us like Sochu House has two personalities – a bar and a restaurant. Late nights the bar also functions as a club with dancing and a DJ. The restaurant is somewhat separated by a wall at one point and a curtain at another. The setup worked for us, since it was pretty barren at 5:45 when we rolled in (hey, don’t hate – we’ve got a six-month old at home and wanted to actually sleep that night!).  We were promptly seated and had a great experience with our server. The DJ was already going in the bar, but the music wasn’t overpowering.

The menu is built around tapas, Asian-style. Tapas are small appetizers, designed for sharing with groups. As a result, if you’ve got a group of four to six people who are looking for a new dining experience in Central Phoenix, this menu is a match made in heaven.

We ordered two tapas – the Pork Pot Stickers and the PankoShrimp. The potstickers were our second favorite item of the evening and the shrimp tasted great as well. We found at least 10 tapas that caught our attention – we’ll be trying some of those next time!

All tapas are $5 during happy hour, which is 3-6pm daily. However, we learned that happy hour only applies to the bar area. So if you’re looking to go cheaper, make sure you get seated in that area. (I think there are small tables in the bar area). Otherwise, you’re paying full price.

After the tapas, we ordered two entrees to share. The Red Curry in a clay pot was amazing! I was sweating on my forehead and the back of my neck by the time we finished it off. (I would’ve loved a side of rice with this dish, but it was great anyway). The curry in a clay pot was our favorite item of the evening.

We also ordered the 7-spice chicken, even though our server told us it wasn’t super popular. I can see why – we wouldn’t order it again.

We ordered dessert – their specialty are Sweet Wontons. These wontons blended the taste of a New Orleans-style beignet with the lightness Southwestern sopapilla in a wonton package. Incredible taste! You get two in the dessert – great presentation. I could have eaten ten of these!

Overall, we were very pleased with our entire experience. We will be coming back and (obviously) we are sharing about experience with friends.

If you’re looking to get a taste of Sochu House without breaking the bank or needing a formal occasion, then try their lunch price-fixe menu. Start with soup or salad, choose from three entree options and wrap it up with one sweet wonton. All of that is $8 Monday thru Friday.

If you’re getting a little tired of Asian food at home or from Pei Wei takeout, a trip to Sochu House is exactly what you need.

Looking for more local options? Try Barrio Cafe.

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If YOU have a great local restaurant you’d like to review for OM Cafe, shoot me an email.

Scott Savage was born in Las Vegas, but he didn’t learn math in a casino. He moved to Phoenix because he couldn’t get enough sunny days! Four years ago, he became Dani’s husband, and six months ago, he became Wesley’s dad. Scott serves North Phoenix Baptist Church as the Minister to Young Adults and is passionate about the Gospel, the Church, and seeing both engage a diverse, global culture. He is addicted to iced coffee and loves Downtown Phoenix. You can keep up with his daily adventures by following him on Twitter (@scottesavage) and you can read his musings at www.thejoshuacollective.com. And no, he’s not related to Ben, Fred, Randy, or Michael Savage. But he is related to Pocahontas!